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For a girl in India, a wish list could look like this:
- Getting to see her side of the family when she wants. Asking for permission to see parents defies all logic.
- Getting to wear what she feels like.
- Not considered a possession, of her father, brothers and husband but a person.
- See her friends, or actually have some friends.
- Not be the last one to eat. Really, why females, in many so called educated and modern families, are expected to eat only after the male members of the family?
- Have equal say in financial decisions.Whether she earns or not, she is a contributor to the family.
- Doing what she wants for her parents.
- A home that is her own, not her mayka (mom's) or sasural (inlaws)
- People around her realize that she is an individual who has hopes, wishes, desires, interests, hobbies and cooking is not necessarily one of them.
- Future generation girls need not wish for any of these, hopefully they would simply have these.
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After reading this post, I have only one wish Sandhya - that all this comes true. We have so many things RESERVED FOR MEN in India.. and this lists them all too :(
ReplyDeleteEach point can have pages and posts written about them... for example I read that some men actually feel they deserve dowry because they feed and look after a woman her entire life, they need to realise, "Weather she earns or not, she is a contributor to the family."
Lovely post Sandhya!! We should make this a tag... and ask women to write about any of these...
@IHM: An even sad part is its women, more then men, in India who are adding insult to injury in other women's lives. I like the idea of this tag, let's do it!
ReplyDeleteloved ur post as usual Sandhya.first of all the birth of a girl child should be welcome & CELEBRATED with the same pomp and show as dat of a boy.female foeticide & infanticide to be curbed.I feel the rest of the problems can be sorted out easily after this.
ReplyDeletePreeti, welcome to the blog!!
ReplyDeleteFemale infanticide is not the reason for such kind of treatment to girls, rather its the other way round, because girls are treated like this, people are scared to bring them in the world. Birth of a girl will be celebrated when there is no more fear of girls getting to live like second class citizens.
i hope times change soon....i don't wanna see more girls "wishing" for their basic rights...it shudn't be the case...
ReplyDeleteTimes are changing Titaxy , I have hope :-)
ReplyDeleteMy wishlist is endless !!!
ReplyDeleteI wish happiness for everyone. :)
ReplyDeleteHappy blogging!
Sandhya, So sad, isn't it that a majority of women in India, still have to wish for these things!
ReplyDelete@Hitchy: endless wishlists keep us going ;-)
ReplyDelete@Chandrika: Welcome here!
@wordsndreamz: Indeed sad but I have hopes and feel it is changing.
I wish we didn't have to wish for such simple things. How sad that we must have our rights on our wish lists!!
ReplyDeleteDespite being a male, I would like to add one more wish to this list:
ReplyDeleteGetting to wear the clothes she wants to.
Also getting to watch her favorite soap despite a cricket match(not a world cup fixture though - that is unthinkable).
hmm My wish is that all your wishes come true, I strictly beleive that men-women are equal. Not sure about india but here in UK its the same , though few from old generation still try.. but i gues sthe new generation is getting what you are saying.
ReplyDeleteHopefully soon it will all come to equality.. I would love to have someone by my side who is standing shoulder to shoulder with me ... rather than a step down..
Well loved reading the articles on ur blog.. Excelelnt .. and the Scooters story in hindi it was WOW..
First time on your blog, and just loved reading this post!!
ReplyDelete2 more points to your wishlish -
"Not to be treated as a bundle of burden by her own family"
"Not to be treated as a commodity to trade during marriages".
I am blessed to have all that on your wish list. These are the basic rights of any person. It is indeed sad to note the contents of your list. It shows that although we may be in the 21st century, we have not progressed at all. Your post was certainly an eye-opener.
ReplyDeleteShalini, Welcome here. Yes,, many of us do not have any of these but hope is alive :-)
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